The Innovation of LonelinessPosted: February 3, 2014 | |
This video talks about the connection between social networks and Loneliness.
“We, as human beings, think that through social networks, we’ve somehow become more social creatures.
The problem with this theory is, the more we “connect” online, the less actual human interactions we have, making us actually fairly unsocial.
A new video breaks down exactly how the social aspects of human beings have evolved and transformed, showing how we’ve regressed from a social standpoint.
Shimi Cohen shows exactly what’s wrong with our social structure now, and how we manipulate how we want to be presented to peers, family members, and potential mates on social media, rather than having vulnerable and genuine conversations in real time.”
This video made me more aware of how lonely we as humans actually are in modern society. It states that intimately, we can only know 150 other humans, and our best or close friends make up few of this number. Today, the number of virtual friends you have can almost compensate the amount of real friends you have.
As I have already noticed that in the city, being on your phone or on the internet looking at social media, contributes to the hidden isolation people experience in the city, I thought this video was highly appropriate to include in my research and an interesting addition to my existing findings.
I came across a powerful comment on the video that confirmed all the observations that I have made within the city. It talks about how unsocial and lonely life is and how technology and social networks make us feel popular and social. He talks about hiding away from being alone and using technology to hide your own loneliness but I hadn’t given much thought to the fact that even when people are with others, they are still preoccupied using these items. A new question has arisen in my mind from this research. Do we make people we are with feel lonely if we ignore them or pretend to listen whilst on our gadgets?
“I see people at restaurants, in elevators, and on the street using their phones to look at Facebook. There’s nothing wrong with that – if you’re by yourself. But I often see people in groups, or with another person, or ON A DATE (!) – on their phones, on Facebook, not talking to the person they’re with. Why? Would you even consider being at a restaurant with someone and pulling out a book and reading it while they sit there looking around? No. So why is it ok to look at Facebook? This video makes the same point: Facebook makes us feel like we’re sociable and interesting, however, if you’re sitting looking at Facebook while a real live human sits across from you, you’re AFRAID of the intimacy that would come from interacting with that person, and are hiding on Facebook. The trend is not reversible, and I can only wonder what society will be like in 20 years. “
– Jay Moeller commenting on this video